In the end, it’s not up to men to try and define women’s experiences of violence for them, or to tell a woman raped by her husband that the crime committed against her was less severe than another woman’s. Women define their own experience of male violence.
What Dawkins needs to realise is that, in his exploration of logical argument, there is one group of people who will have listened appreciatively to his words. They will have heard the description of date rape as ‘mild’, and they will have gone away feeling reassured that the crime they committed wasn’t that bad, wasn’t that violent, was only ‘mild’. And those people are rapists.